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All We’re Asking Is For A Little Respect

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/Vague Meanderings from The Great White North
Yes, The Great White North, we don’t need to be great again, we just are…oh and by white we mean our snow, not our complexions (what’s that got to do with anything anyway?). We’re proud to be a cultural mosaic. It’s not cold here right now, it’s sauna-like, with the prerequisite nude folks (sometimes a towel can be a lifesaver…mine). https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Our news is flooded with the loss of a spectacular voice (for song and human rights) that came from an inspirational woman – Aretha Franklin, The Queen of Soul will move our ears, feet, and hearts forever…https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • More people killed with guns (who knew, guns do kill people); Omarosa is a sociopath just like Trump The Great Orange Misleader, they deserve each other, but we don’t deserve either – perhaps they’re in on it together, hey, let’s have a public feud and split the royalties.https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Canada has legal marijuana (if ya wanna). Trump is meangirling us, “I’m not even talking to Canada right now!”  OMG, cause Kelly told Stephen told Sarah told Jared told Ivanka that Justin Trudeau wasn’t kissing Donald’s butt – I can’t even!  New reality show idea: “High School White House”. How’s that cyberbullying campaign going, Melania? Be Best indeed.

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • By the way, Trump not talking to us here in Canada, can I just say a simple and heartfelt, thank you. https://yadadarcyyada.com/2017/04/28/well-cream-you-with-our-tim-hortons-donuts-you-hosers/ America has 10x Canada’s population but we’re dominating trade and hurting the USA? How does that work? Math, dude, try it.

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • HBC (Hudson’s Bay Company)/Britain, now they knew how to dominate trade, unfortunately in an aggressively brutal, demeaning, and evil way, especially the fur trade – can you tell I just watched Frontier on Netflix, originally on Discovery? Jason Momoa (oh my, did it just get really hot in here? Blogger fanning herself…

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

    Been watching him since Stargate: Atlantis, don’t judge. Game of Thrones really should have kept him longer, Khal Drogo, oh my, even hotter in here….sure, he’s Aquaman now, but we have to watch the new DC stuff to see him, shudder, also, Allan Hawco, Shawn Doyle, Landon LiboironTantoo Cardinal, Evan Jonigkeit, Greg Bryk, Zoe Boyle and more. But I digress.

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Automation killed the jobs, not NAFTA. See, we missed a step, a) Get everyone a basic income, we should all have enough (those who want more are free to pursue it; don’t bother with the ‘we don’t have the money’, we do, it’s just lining the wrong pockets), then, b) Automate the jobs, and lastly, c) Quit whining, learn some facts (they’re fun, I promise).

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Taking down all the statues? The American Civil War happened. Slavery happened (and it wasn’t a choice, Kanye West, you’re confused). Genocides. Holocausts. Sir John A Macdonald happened. You can’t erase history like an old VCR tape of Magnum P.I. – learn from it, don’t let it happen again. Redo the plaques on statues with both, oh heck, why not all, sides of the story? No use throwing out all the old drunk white guys with the bath water (at this rate there will just be more).

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Saudi Arabia is picking on Canada cause we’re standing up for human rights , women’s rights, and freedom of speech – well excuuuuuuse us! We’re Canada, guys, it’s kind of our thing. We’re Peacekeepers. https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/All we’re asking is for a little respect…just a little (although a lot would better, sometimes more is better).

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • We don’t have a spotless human rights record ourselves, the Indian Act, Residential Schools, https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/06/06/people-are-people/ polluted water, poverty, black mold and so much more on reserves, oh heck, reserves themselves (let’s go with cultural genocide), but we’re not just paying lip service to trying to do better, er, mostly…and as a woman, gotta say, equal rights, hmmmm….not so much.https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

    And as the clock moves backwards in Ontario (that’s a Province…honest) – to start, no more electric vehicle rebates, clean energy rebates, carbon tax, oh and moving sex education back 20 years…Wait, so we now have Buck-A-Beer, legalized marijuana, and out-of-date sex ed – what could go wrong?https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • What else? Children in cages; children stolen from their parents; war; famine; biorisk; healthcare; revoking security clearances (public enemies list, aah, Nixon, the gift that keeps on giving…maybe his ghost is floating around going, “I am not that  big a crook!”, so instead, McRaven for Prez 2020?) to stop an investigation. Witch hunt (which hunt?) or rigged election, conspiracy, and a desperate attempt to hang onto stolen power.https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • ISIS, still a thing (look up the numbers); human trafficking; child abuse (I believe you forfeit your rights as a human when you hurt a child, there, I said it…and I have some ideas on what to do with them).https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

     

  • Racism, sexism and a bunch of other isms; collaborators to the right of us, maybe to the left – there must be some kinda way outta here, because Bob Dylan/Jimi Hendrix got it right, “let us stop talkin’ falsely now” and by ‘falsely’ they didn’t mean believe liars, try it the other way round, there, that’s a better fit.

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Climate change, sure, it’s all natural, sure, we’ll just keep telling ourselves that, extreme weather events are good fodder for social media (Instagram that hurricane!); gray/grey tsunami (not fifty shades either).

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Cybersecurity; free trade; fair trade; fair work; fair treatment; fair weather (umm, friends…no one told life was gonna be this way https://yadadarcyyada.com/2017/09/28/we-were-on-a-break/)

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • More tax breaks/loopholes for the poor little rich guys, they’re hard done by you know; opioids; malnourishment/hunger; clean water scarcity;https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Russian nesting doll satellites; comets; plastic pollution islands, grieving Orcas; dead sea life; nuclear insecurity (aka spoiled brats holding their, er, weapons in their creepy little hands).

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Unemployment/underemployment; lack of education; fossils liking fuels; food waste; The Walking Dead, aka zombies (oh wait, is that just Congress and the Senate, hard to tell)…

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Space Force (can I wear space pants in these latest Star Wars?).

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Wildfires (how can we sleep when our homes are burning?); scams; scums; lack of social and economic dignity (where’s that respect again?); rape; slime; murder; priests (fix the problem instead of continually apologizing and making payouts).

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

  • Even if I’m never heard, my words bouncing around this giant virtual haystack, pinging like a metal ball in a pinball machine (oh my, how old am I again?)

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

    then at least I won’t be a link in this “Chain, Chain, Chain…Chain of Fools”. Money shouldn’t rule.https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

    • I still believe (don’t stop believing…) we can rise together. “Think”. Think, think, who do you wanna be?

    https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/17/all-were-asking-is-for-a-little-respect/

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Posted in Autism, Blogs, Doctor Who, Family, Parenting, Political, Uncategorized

Take your time, hurry up

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Last night, as I checked on my beautiful boy, now so grown up, I noted again that time has raced by yet he still looks like my baby when he’s asleep.

Having a child with Autism, those sleep times give you some much-needed downtime and perhaps, a curious understanding of time and dimension, hmm, or maybe that’s too many years of Doctor Who.

In this frenzied world, we need more compassion, appreciation, and hope; less rushing, lies, and bullying. Maybe we don’t have time to stop and smell the roses, but I hope we can at least notice the roses are there.

  • The best time to take a deep breath is when there’s no time. At the end of your life, I doubt you’ll look back and think, thank goodness I spent my life like a hamster on a wheel, that was sooo fulfilling.

  •  Stop flogging yourself for mistakes. They happen. Learn from them. So you write or say the wrong thing. Fall in love with the wrong person. Press the wrong button and start a nuclear war, ok, that example is pretty much the worst mistake ever, try not to do that one. Time moves forward for a reason, so should you.

  • 1me10I think you can be happy with or without money. Money just makes life easier, not always better. Stop trying to buy your way to happiness or keep up with the Kardashians. If you’re coveting someone else’s stuff, you’re not focusing on you and those you love. You can’t be happy doing that.

  • Don’t get into friendships or relationships (or stay in them) for the wrong reasons. Do you really loathe your own company that much?1me11

  • Don’t reject someone because you’ve had a bad experience either. That experience taught you something, it had a purpose.

  • Fall apart once in a while. You’re not always “fine”. Sometimes it’s fine not to be fine.

  • Worry is passive and self-indulgent; you’re not enjoying that moment and not letting others enjoy it either.marxbros5

  • Trying to be someone you’re not is like trying to hide a dinosaur in your bedroom, it’s too big, smelly, messy, and extinct. Why be someone else, they’re already doing it.

  • Holding grudges or hating people is a toxic waste of time and energy. Forgiveness isn’t agreeing, you’re just not going to let it poison you or those around you. That includes forgiving yourself too!1me13

  • If we have time to shop, play games, check the internet, go on vacation, go out to dinner, we can spare 5 minutes to vote. An hour to volunteer or help someone. We can’t make a difference if we don’t at least try.

  • Instead of thinking about what you don’t want to happen, think about what you do want to happen.

  • Those who love you don’t need you to explain yourself and pretenders, bullies, or enemies, they’ll believe what they want to believe.1funny103

Posted in Autism, Books, Uncategorized

Better Than Weird

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Orca Publishing

What is weird? The actual definitions range anywhere from suggesting something supernatural or uncanny to strange or unusual. So why is weird bad? That is the interesting part about bullying, it’s so subjective. The bully gets to decide when a person is weird or different and then gets to decide that’s it’s somehow bad or wrong then they get to harm that person. Wow, judge, jury and executioner. What pobullying8wer.

I read all kinds of books, to say my tastes are eclectic would be an understatement. Some books I read thinking of my son. I like to know if a book, movie, TV series, etc. might be useful, fun, relevant or too mature, scary, etc. Like the main character in this book,  Better Than Weird my son is on the Autism Spectrum. Another common thread, this book depicts the bullying of a special needs child, a story I know all too well. Bullying is even more common among children with special needs.

This book is well-written, insightful, sincere, if at times a tad simplistic in regards to bullying resolutions. I understand, people want to believe bullying can be fixed. Unfortunately society celebrates bullying. It’s embedded in our culture. We need to stop watching it, buying it, electing it, and we need to stop promoting bullying as cool.  Only then will bullying slow down. We need to value people, not drama.

In this way I think this book was excellent. It was clear that bullying was not cool and highlighted how bullying hurt others. The book interested me enough that I searched out and read the first book in the series, The Mealworm Diaries. It’s the story of Jeremy and how he met Aaron (Better Than Weird). Also well written. Both are connected, but can undoubtedly be read as stand alones. The author gives us a depth of empathy and softness while still clearly outlining the challenges children face. Kerz leads us through life’s obstacles and triumphs through the eyes of children.

I would recommend these books for children, but also for adults who want to try to understand children, especially children on the Autism Spectrum.

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Posted in Movies, Televison, Uncategorized

SOME KIND OF WONDERFUL

80s14As with many John Hughes films, SKOW is about making choices and living with the consequences.

For Keith (Eric Stoltz) it’s about being who his father wants him to be or following his passion. Asking Amanda Jones out is one of his acts of rebellion; doing things no one expects him to do.

For Amanda Jones (Lea Thompson) her choice is to stay in a bad relationship to be at the top of the high school food chain, or go out with someone else, or stand on her own.

For Watts (Mary Stuart Masterson) it’s about risking her friendship with her best friend by letting him know she loves him as more than a friend.

For Hardy Jenns (Crag Sheffer) it’s about being a snobby jerk or a bigger snobby jerk.

80s10For Duncan (Elias Koteas) it’s deciding whether to commit larceny, vandalism, murder, or does he have time for all of it in his busy schedule?

This film does hold one distinction, fav onscreen kiss, between Keith and Watts. 80s12

Great romcom, cool music, and makes you think about your choices and their consequences. Some Kind of Wonderful…memories.

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RUDOLPH THE RED-NOSED REINDEER

ImageThis used to be on once a Christmas season when I was a child, like A Charlie Brown Christmas, Frosty The Snowman, and How the Grinch Stole Christmas. Now it’s on many times a season, of course the season is now almost 3 months long. Also available on DVD, download, streamed, etc.

But there was something special in knowing it was only on one night a year. My parents would be on their way out to a Christmas party, in fancy clothes and smelling so good as they leaned down to kiss my brother and me good night. In theory we were supposed to be asleep when they got home. We had pizza made from the box mix, after all, it was a special occasion. We had pop which was rare threat. We made popcorn in the air popper with its special butter tray. My crazy cat would run and sit on the back on my Dad’s chair and beg for some of the melted butter. The fire was crackling. Or other nights with the same scene except my parents were home and we’d be laughing, joking around, watching the Christmas specials, it was fun because they only came on once a year. I wonder if our abundance or even overabundance has made things less special in some ways. christmas60

Rudolph, Santa’s 9th reindeer was a simple story of accepting others for their differences, embracing diversity. Rudolph was bullied for his differences until they realized different doesn’t mean bad. They added a few characters to this stop animation classic, adding to 1939 poem written by Robert L. May. And of course, The Island of Misfit Toys which was 2001 sorta sequel.

I hope Christmas can still have special moments for young and young at heart…christmas62

Posted in Movies, Music, Uncategorized, Weight

Muriel’s Wedding

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Liking who you are. Self-love. Self-esteem. Complex stuff.
Can you still like or even love yourself if you’re not rich or thin or intelligent or married or have children, if you’re not famous, not infamous, just you?

Muriel/Mariel is a lonely young woman who is bullied by family and frenemies alike.

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She’s overweight, underambitious and doesn’t know who she is. Her answer is to lose herself in the world of ABBA music and dream of getting married as though somehow that will mw4solve all her problems.

After taking some drastic steps, Muriel/Mariel has adventures – laughs, cries, lives and learns there are more important things in life. She learns to love herself and realizes that’s enough, for now.

Hard to believe this movie was almost 20 years ago. Still wonderful.

Toni Collette shines and burns brighter and brighter as she grows in the movie.

Rachel Griffiths gives her usual dazzling performance.

There are so many amazing, funny, and poignant scenes, you really just have to see it to love it.mw7

Posted in Movies, Music, Televison, Uncategorized

Pump Up The Volume

pump6Pump Up The Volume explains why adults can’t seem find a way to stop teen bullying, self-esteem issues, suicide, etc. They don’t listen.

Instead, they spend so much time, money, and energy trying to control the situation, create laws, studies, ‘make-work’ projects about bullying that are either a joke or cause more bullying, and wringing their hands saying, why oh why…

Seems we’d rather place teddy bears and flowers, post pictures and hold candlelight vigils than fix the problem. Kind of symptomatic of the problem really, wasting yet more money, time and energy on symbolic gestures when people could be actually helping others.

Teens are worried. They have eyes, they have ears. They can see they’re living in a broken world, that we’re leaving them a broken world. They want some real hope, not just a slogan about it.

Teens (and many adults) are tired. Tired of the lies, scams, hypocrisy, scandals, cover-ups, pretending to care, destroying of their world by those that put power and profit ahead of humans. Adults complain that teenagers don’t respect them. Look around, would you?

Ever wonder why everpump5yone is so obsessive? About: cars, sex, celebrities, toys, religion, exercise, video games, junk food, fast food, TV shows, decorating, news, alcohol, politics, Christmas and other holidays, drugs, fashion, cigarettes, work, crafts, gambling, consumerism, cooking, movies, cell phones, reality shows, weight, shopping, technology, the past, the future, music, well, just about everything?

Everyone is looking for something to cling onto, something to believe in, a way to feel. Teens defy because they want someone to acknowledge their pain and reassure them they have a future.

Is this a great film? Yes and no. The concept is fantastic, the frustration genuine. Christian Slater has to crash his way through some very sludgy, boring bits, nonetheless handing over that apathetic, frenetic amalgamation that does it every time.  Of course, Samantha Mathis is great, as always.

pumpup3Watch this recognizing we haven’t fixed the problems…doesn’t mean we can’t. And enjoy the music, it saves the day. Talk hard.