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I Can’t Make You Love Me

1blog70It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a woman in possession of a blog, must be in want of readers.

For some, blogs take off faster than a Nascar driver chasing after sponsorship, for most others, like me, it’s a slow ride…

I know some of the reasons it’s been a slow ride, I’ve broken the first rule of The Blog Club, don’t talk about The Blog Club, no, that’s not it, oh yes, find a niche. Never have, probably never will. I figure if I get bored, you will too.

To me, giving blogging advice is like trying to explain to someone how to: dance, paint, drive, or make love in a canoe. Sometimes you just have to do it and make the mistakes, have the close calls, possibly tip over at the most inopportune moment.

When asked my blogging advice I offered

 …but with a rebel yell you cried more, more, more…so here goes:

1. Choose a name for your blog. I didn’t know this was important when I choose mine. Live and learn.


2. Size matters, but it’s more about how you use it, mind out of the gutter, I’m taking about post size. Remember, it doesn’t matter how much they love your posts, your readers have lives.

3. Try to use images that work with your post. Adding a random picture of an adorable kitten just to suck up to the cats who run the internet might be smart, but come on, who does that?


4. Don’t get too stressed about the numbers, like right now, most numbers seem down on WordPress, who knows why? First, I blamed the Royal baby, but Princess Charlie is just too awfully cute. Then Mayweather/Pacquiao fight, Mother’s Day, elections, weather, labour unrest, but in the end I had to admit the truth – it’s WordPress. They probably changed their algorithms, come on, they’re always changing something, so statistically (and they love stats), it has to be them.

5. Poofread, er, proofread or get someone else to (and you can always correct it afterwards). We all make mistakes.


6. I can’t make you love me, well, actually, my posts, but one of the best parts about blogging is connecting with your readers and other bloggers, without all of you, what’s the point? Like everything else, sometimes you have to take someone’s hand and other times, offer yours.

7.  It’s not a race or a contest. Don’t worry if  a post is going to go viral, or get Freshly Pressed or be nominated for awards, or making you rich and famous. Take a deep breath. Right now is about right now.


8. Blogging advice can be confusing, here’s the problem, what I think is terribly catchy and clever might not be to others. Obviously I think I’m writing something good, otherwise why would I publish it? Do what you want to do.


9. To be a shameless self-promoting bloghussy like me or not to be, that is the question. Whether tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous rejection while promoting on social media….aye, there’s the rub. I like Twitter, Tumblr and Pinterest, but Facebook just lays there like a mouldy, old ad-filled sock. 

10. Don’t worry about if you’re going to offend someone, it’s the internet, someone is always, and I mean always, offended. Always.


Who am I kidding? I have no idea what works. I’ve poured my heart out and had the post sit there, alone, shivering like the last leaf on a tree before winter. Just do what you feel is right, in the famous words of those sage philosophers, Cheap Trick, “Surrender, Surrender, but don’t give yourself away”.

What about you, dear readers, what would be your best blogging advice?


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Walking On Sunshine Blog Hop – Will there be sunny bunnies?

 1blog7Having a Walking On Sunshine post is ironic for me, I’m sensitive to light, especially sunshine and even more so today because I have a migraine (been building for days), so forgive any mistakes…all over the place.

When I saw Hugh’s blog hop party I just couldn’t narrow it down to one blogger.
I put my own information on so people might hop over here while, like me, they were deciding.

There are too many bloggers who spread sunshine (the good kind that doesn’t make me feel like I’m blind or with an axe slamming through my head), instead, the ones that make me smile, laugh, snort, giggle, feel happy, think, cry, and inspire me to write, etc.


One of the bloggers who makes me laugh everyday, one of my first Readers, who presses like and Retweets, but couldn’t make it to the party, the awesome Austin

My Awesome March Madness Spring Fling Blog Party guests include (in no order, just where I cut/pasted):

If I have left anyone out, I’m sorry, I’m going to blame the headache. If I did your blog twice, thank the headache.

Thank you kindly for coming to the party!
It’s ongoing to if you want to come and promote your blog, find other bloggers, please do, I’d always love to see you.1blog10

Now, enough of that, I’m starting to feel like Julie from The Love Boat (the rest of the party is on the Promenade Deck) and the only thing on my mind is a new romance with some chocolate which would probably make my migraine worse and the only course for adventure I want to set is for my bed (Baby, I love you!).

Thank you all!

Posted in Autism, Awards, Blogs, Books, Canada, Cats, Chocolate, Family, Fibromyalgia, Movies, Music, Televison, Uncategorized

March Madness Spring Fling Blog Party


Depending on where you are, this week is:
Spring Break, March Break, March Madness, Spring Equinox, St. Patrick’s Day or maybe it’s just March.

So for our own form of March Madness, a Spring Fling to get us in the mood, let’s have a Blog Party!!!
Please use the comment box below to tell other bloggers about your blog –
don’t forget to include your blog link!
Tell us something about yourself and/or your blog
and share it so other bloggers will find out about you and everyone else!


I started this blog for relaxation (although sometimes, especially when WordPress makes changes, relaxation is not the word I use), but now, over 500 posts later, I look at my followers and views with wonder.
As a single mom with Fibromyalgia, raising a child with Autism and other health concerns, relaxation is important because most days I feel like Wile E. Coyote with his tiny umbrella.

I’ve learned a lot, but the best part has been my dear readers.
You make it all worth while.
Finding each other in this giant virtual haystack is astonishing and awesome.
I’d hoped it would also lead to fame and fortune; that part hasn’t panned out, but who knows?
Till then, still broke and just a tad less obscure.1thanks6I’m thankful for all the awards I’ve received, but narrowing down other nominees has become too challenging as I find more and more astonishing bloggers whose insights thrill, stories chill, make me cry, laugh, smile, remember, make me think, wonder, and dream.
I love that you think of me, but my time and energy are limited so I’ll use them by responding to your comments and leaving some on your blogs, Tweeting, Retweeting, and sharing your posts.

I’d like to thank some of my most stalwart supporters, those of you who follow, take the time to press the Like button; who humble me by reblogging; Tweet and Retweet, share on Facebook, Google+, Reddit, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Tumblr and more. I find myself looking forward to your posts, comments, insights, loving your stories, glowing…
I just want to soak them all up.1bean2

So join me here, it’s easy to Follow via email or WordPress
and on Facebook at

Twitter @yadadarcyyada for some Hashtag parties:
Sundays: #SundayBlogShare @suzie81blog
Mondays: #MondayBlogs @MondayBlogs
Wednesdays: #wwwblogs (Women Writer Wednesdays),
and #BeWoW (Be Wonderful posts on Wednesdays @RonovanWrites)
Saturdays: #ArchiveDay
Any day with compassion: #1000Speak @1000Speak
Weekends: #WeekendBlogHop @WeekendBlogHop
Excellent ways to find posts and bloggers.


1athank5So thank you all for a memorable time here on this big bouncy web.
Please don’t leave without sharing your blog link and info below,
so other bloggers can find you
and you can find other bloggers.

Keep checking back, who knows how long this party will last?

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I have many happy childhood memories of crying to Farley Mowat books. The books sometimes made me sad, but it was a sad that inspired me to be more, to do more.

There were ongoing skirmishes between our parents and my brother and me, over books. No, not getting us to read, but trying to restrict how many books we brought with us, everywhere.
It became a family joke that we couldn’t go to the grocery store without several books each.
You can imagine what going on a long trip was like.
These were the days before e-reading. What if we got tired of a book or finished a book? What if we were without a book? We were book piranhas.
I’m sure my Mom sometimes felt awkward trying to tell us to bring less books. And my Dad wasn’t as supportive about this as he could have been because he liked having my brother and me read to him on trips.

Lost in the Barrens was the first Farley Mowat book I read, I think I was 7 or 8, maybe.
I remember my heart racing and I nervously turned each page. This was a writer who put so much love of his country and took such care with his words, every book was riveting and authentic.1far7

I can’t tell you a favourite since each book held it’s own treasures as each word created the magnificence of a sentence then grew into a majestic paragraph…page after page after page until I would stare at the final words, almost confused. How could it be over?

From Never Cry Wolf to Curse of the Viking Grave to Owls In the Family, The Desperate People, A Whale For The Killing, Rescue the Earth!, The Dog Who Wouldn’t Be, No Man’s River, The Boat Who Wouldn’t Float, People of The Deer, Sea of Slaughter and so many more.1far4
Mowat  loved not just his Canada, but had a love affair with the planet. He understood decades before others how destroying our world makes no sense.

Some politicians will give false platitudes, yet keep destroying our world. What will their legacy be?

I know I’ll be re-reading some of his works though I hold them in my heart where I sit curled in a chair, wiping away a tear for the senseless devastation of this country I love so much and this world. 1far11
“We’re under some gross misconception that we’re a good species, going somewhere important, and that at the last minute we’ll correct our errors and God will smile on us. It’s delusion.”~Farley Mowat

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ba2Patty (Just Patty) has nominated me for the Lighthouse Award! Thank you so much, I am honoured and will do my best to be worthy!

Patty (Just Patty) is never just anything, her blog is full of insights, truths, hopes, reality, poetry and pictures. Check it out and press Follow!

award7The rules for the Lighthouse Award are:

1. Display the award certificate on your blog.

2. Inform your nominees of their award nominations.

3. Share three ways that you like to help other people.

4. There is no limit to the number of people that you can nominate.

5. Don’t forget to have fun!!

Helping people:

1. I think teaching my son to be helpful is an extension of my being helpful and also helps him and the others he helps (that’s a lot of helps in one sentence).

2. I like to do things for people, obviously I have limited energy, money, and time, but I still always try to help.

3. I hope I’m there if someone wants to talk.

My nominees are:amill8I’d put Patty on the list, but since she nominated me, I’ll just say this as an honourary nomination.  Jenn, I know you don’t accept awards anymore, but you’re still award-worthy. 🙂


But these are just a start and my head is starting to spin. I don’t know how to narrow it down so I’m just going to thank all the amazing people who visit my blog, let me drop by their blogs, point me toward other blogs, articles, information, etc., comment, compliment, critique, follow, share, like, and are just my beacon of light when I need it. Thanks.award5If you accept awards, please accept these with my gratitude…if not, I get it. They are lovely, but take a long time and it’s way, way, way too difficult to only thank a few people since so many wonderful people support us on our  journeys. 🙂

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I have been awarded The Dragon’s Loyalty Award.

I can’t tell you how wonderful this feels, Dawn who blogs at: Writer and Yoga enthusiast living with a chronic illness and others who nominated me and all the other bloggers, readers, etc. who have made me feel at home in this strange new world of blogging.

Check out Dawn’s blog and if you’re not following already, you don’t know what you’re missing. You get: Fibro musings; inspiration; Haiku poems that really make you think and make me wish to try to write them and then after yet another jumbled attempt I give up and think, that’s a lot harder that it looks; moments of passion (she’s working on a novel, there’s quite a few of us who can’t wait); and you always get amazing insights and sense from this Fibro Fighting Warrior Goddess. I always look forward to her posts.

The philosophy of the award is: “The Dragon’s Loyalty Award is an award for the loyal fan/commenter, whether the recipient is a fellow blogger or just someone who follows and comments regularly”.

There are some rules that one must follow in order to fully accept the award and they are as follows:

1. Firstly, display the Award on your site (see Award page or sidebar!) You earned it and you deserve it!

2. Link back to the person who gave you the award in your acceptance post;

3. Nominate 15 well-deserving bloggers for the Award and let them know the wonderful news by sending them a message on their site;

4. List 7 interesting facts about yourself

7 Possibly Interesting Facts About Me, but at least if not, they’re true

I used to be a Goth Punk Girl, black lipstick, skeletons dangling from various places…some days I miss it.  I’m a political junkie. I once swallowed a wasp and felt bad for him. longbourn7I love movies and TV, Jane Austen for the escape, horror for the thrill, comedy for the laughs, romance for sighs, mystery for the mystery, Christmas for the schmaltz and so on, I have eclectic tastes. I’m a chocoholic. I don’t like the sun, it’s hot. I love reading, one might say I’m addicted, books make me happy.  🙂christmas46

This was difficult cause a few of my top commenters are already up for this award on Dawn’s amazing blog so I’m including them anyway because they’ve been so supportive…and to some of my stalwart readers.

Thank you for reading my Vague Meanderings. Believe it or not, I do edit, a lot, but more keeps pouring out.

I enjoy their blogs as well so good to pass the loyalty on. Here are the nominees for The Dragon’s Loyalty Award:

Rose Pigott, not a blogger but reads and comments, thanks!

fg12Thanks to everyone who has supported me so far. I’ve actually gotten so much more out of this than I realized. I’m endlessly entertained by all kind of wonderful, smart, witty and insightful people. I’ve awed and amazed at the strength of people. And the kindness. The generosity.  The acceptance. The laughter and the tears. And most of all, the hope. Thank you all. If anyone doesn’t wish to accept the award, not a problem, just know that I appreciate you.

I have also been nominated for this award by the lovely, loyalty and hilarious ex-pat Canadian Cher who lives in Chicago, but also keeps us up-to-date on her adventures. You should find and follow her blog at

Thank you. Sorry, but the awards as lovely as they are just take up so much time.

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I’ve been nominated for another award!!!

imagine award

This time the lovely Imagine Award, created by Jenn Mulherin of the “My Fibrotastic Life!”
It’s a great blog because it doesn’t just focus on Fibromyalgia, but food, fun, laughter that can be found in unexpected places, arts, crafts, life experiences, with of course personal stories and experiences of Fibro. As much as I like reading and looking at the arts and crafts stuff, I’m going to be honest, I don’t end up doing it, arts & crafts and I don’t play well together. Food and I play too well together…lol. I do enjoy all the stuff on the blog, keep it coming! This blog is fresh, quirky (I like!), has depth, and passion that makes me want to keep reading, hope you do too.
I’m reposting this part right from Jenn to explain the award. “This award was made in order to recognize the bloggers who express their passion and dedication towards their blogs through their creativity. How is creativity found in a blog? Just like beauty, creativity is in the eye of the beholder. There are many unique ways which bloggers can express their creativity. Creativity can be displayed through: Words (such as writing fictional stories or real life experiences, poetry, quotes, using metaphors, etc.).  Pictures (this can include photos, comics, computer-drawn pictures, etc. Videos. The layout of the blog page.  The degree of creativity is one of the qualities in a blog which not only draws more readers, but it shows how much the blogger cares about their blog. The care-taking of a blog is like taking care of a plant. In order to keep it healthy and growing, you need to feed the blog with your ideas and give it a lot of love.”~Jenn

I accept this honour proudly Jenn and thank you so much for recognizing my blog, Yadadarcyyada. I’m thrilled. twilightzone6
Now, the hard part, picking only 5 other bloggers (and I see some of my potential noms are already on your list, and of course, you, so, drat)…This is sooooo hard to narrow it down.

Here are my Nominees…

In your post which is dedicated to your award…

Copy and paste the award to your post.
Thank the blogger who nominated you and link their blog page to your post.
List 3-5 things about the nominator’s blog that you like (which you think are very creative).
Nominate 5 other bloggers/blogs which you think display a fantastic use of creativity and imagination.
Notify your nominees.
Copy and paste The Imagine Award to your blog page.

*If you decline The Imagine Award, that is okay, but please pass the award to a blog that you find to be very creative.

Thanks again.