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Goodbye Dearest Friend

Posted on by D. Parker

Yesterday I woke up to different world.
That happens every day, but some days,
some days the changes are horrible.
My best friend of almost 30 years passed away two nights ago.
Rose was sweet, funny, kind, brave, beautiful,
stubborn, strong, talented,
just a wonderful person.
She was always cool, not just cool,
but never judging or cruel.

scan0009Here are some pictures of Rose (in the pink she’s dressed for Halloween giving me the what, more pictures look – as much as Rose loved taking pictures she didn’t like having them taken of her; I feel the same).
The others are of her and I in photo booths (remember those, the original selfies). We were young and always did the same pose, I’m in the front, trying to look sophisticated and she’s trying to hide from the camera…I think, who knows, it was a long time ago.

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Images courtesy: D. Parker and a photo booth

We had some wild times together.
We had long talks and laughs.
We shared our love of music and fun.
She was Godmother to my son.
Always there, always wonderful.
I can’t imagine a world without Rose.
Though my heart is aching,
she will remain there
because she’ll always be my best friend.
I was very lucky to have known her, as was anyone who knew her.

Those who touch our hearts, stay in them forever. Goodbye Rose, sister-in-my-heart,
I hope you’ve gone to rock’n’roll heaven!

I woke up this morning thinking it had all been a bad dream. Then the pain hit me hard enough to almost knock me off my feet.
These are the days I wish I had a time machine to go back,
to change things, to just have more time with those I’ve lost.

Death seems pointless, but it brings things into sharp focus for those left behind. Or it should. It shows clearly what is important and even more so, what isn’t important. We shouldn’t spend time on petty things, narcissism, fear, worry, and hate. We should be loving, giving, caring, and worry less about the material things, they can all be replaced…people cannot.

“Life is mostly froth and bubble,
Two things stand like stone.
Kindness in another’s trouble,
Courage in your own.”
~Adam Lindsay Gordon

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167 thoughts on “Goodbye Dearest Friend”

  6. So sorry for your loss. Rose sounds like she was a wonderful person to know and have as a friend, and that means your loss is all the deeper. You put together a lovely tribute to her.

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  22. A beautiful tribute to dear Rose.

    Take care dear Donna

    Love paddy

    Sent from my iPad

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  24. I’m really very sorry to hear of your loss. What a beautifully moving tribute though, just keep the amazing memories in you heart and mind, though Rose isn’t here, those memories will last forever. ☺️

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    1. Thank you for your kind words. 🙂
      I just keep remembering how lucky I was to have been her friend. 🙂
      I hope you have a wonderful weekend. 🙂

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    1. Thank you. 🙂
      I can picture her big, beautiful smile that lit up a whole room. She would like it because she was always the biggest fan of my writing. 🙂
      Hope you have a wonderful weekend Teagan. 🙂 Big hugs. 🙂

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  34. Another beautiful and evocative piece about loss, life, and remembering. And about love as a constant thread that connects.

    I know you and Rose were there for each other during many interesting and tumultuous times. You will always at least have those memories.

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  37. I’m so sorry for your loss.She was obviously so young too. Such a tragedy. The pain stays a long time but does get less. The memories remain and can come back to delight you time after time.
    xxx Huge Hugs xxx

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  40. So sorry you have to go through this pain but your words are beautiful, I can almost imagine Rose from your words. I’m sending you a *hug* all the way from cape Town 🙁

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  45. I read this with tears in my eyes. I am truly, deeply sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling, but I send you love and hope you have good support around you.
    Hugs,
    Kat x

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, Kat. 🙂
      And thank you for finding me which means, I found your blogs, so pleased! 🙂
      Hope we can virtually visit often. 🙂
      Thank you again. Hugs, Donna

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    1. Thank you so much. 🙂
      So glad we could virtually find each other, hope we can virtually visit often. 🙂
      Take care. Hope this day treats you kindly, 🙂

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  54. What a hard blog entry to write. What a hard reality to live through. Hope the subsides a bit as time goes by. You were lucky to have one another as friends.

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    1. It was on one level and it really felt good on another. She was the biggest supporter of my writing so it felt right. 🙂
      We were extremely lucky. Thank you kindly. 🙂

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  57. It is hard to lose a good friend. I would love to tell that it gets easier or that you will miss them less, but I cannot. I can say that it gets easier to bear. At some point you will hopefully be able to think of them and smile remembering all the fun times, the things you got into together and the simple companionship of just hanging out. Your post is an excellent way to help you remember the good in your friend Rose.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, Shawn. 🙂
      It’s a bit like a roller coaster right now, moments of sadness then smiles then sadness again. It’s still hard to believe.
      Hope this day is treating you kindly. 🙂

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  58. I am sorry for your loss… This post is a beautiful tribute to your best friend <3 I wish there was something I could say or do to ease your pain and sorrow. But words are not enough. Time is the key and to share your burden with people who listens…

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  61. She’ll always be with you, a part of you. You won’t lose her. You won’t forget her.

    I just stumbled across this tonight and I wanted to stop by and ask how you’re doing. It’s still relatively fresh and will hurt for a long time. But one day, you’ll be able to think of her with happiness and laughter in your heart, instead of the horrible ache.

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    1. Thank you so much, Corina. As the days go by the happy memories, of which there are so many outweigh the loss.
      Thank you for dropping by and the kind words. I’m glad we found each other in this giant virtual haystack, hope we can virtually visit often. 🙂
      Hope this day treats you kindly. 🙂

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  63. Like you said, she’s in your heart. She’ll always be with you to nudge and inspire you.
    And she’s making heaven a lot cooler at the same time.

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  64. I’m sorry to learn of your loss, Donna. May perpetual light shine upon Rose and may all who love and miss her be comforted ❤

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    1. Thank you kindly, Angie, that’s so thoughtful of you.
      Though it’s been 3 months I still have a difficult time thinking she’s really gone, but her memory for sure, will always remain. 🙂

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      1. It takes time to grieve, it’s just all so disorienting. I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself during this difficult time. Beautiful memories are so precious <3

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    1. Thank you so much, Ian, so nice of you to feature my post, I’m really grateful for the kindness. 🙂
      Hope you’ve been doing well and that this week is good to you. Hugs xox

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    1. Thank you, Rob, not just for the reblog, but for the kind words.
      Those who touch our hearts stay in them forever and this was written from the heart.
      Hope this week is treating you well. 🙂

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