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Can’t You Just Pretend To Be Nice?

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Can't You Just Pretend To Be Nice?Life is choosing. Choosing to be happy or sad. Nice or mean. Hopeful or hopeless. Among the mass of expectations, concepts, beliefs, abstractions, and stereotypes swirls millions and millions of choices. We’re not always going to make the right choices. Sometimes we’re mean and feel sorry, sometimes we’re sorry we’re not more mean.

I recently rewatched Josie and the Pussycats, the movie, although I loved the cartoon also – https://yadadarcyyada.com/2014/08/09/i-miss-saturday-morning-cartoons/ – it reminded me:

1) It’s hilarious, even 15 years later, maybe more so;
2) It’s wise and relevant, especially about how we’re brandwashed, er, brainwashed;
3) The words to the song keep echoing through my head, “Can’t you just pretend to be nice, can you at least pretend to be nice, if you could just pretend to be nice, then everything in my life would be alright.”

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For me, people who pretend to be nice are pretty much as annoying as meanies. “A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person.”- Dave Barry Yet there are still tons of genuinely nice people…but we’re designed to notice danger, it’s for survival. We notice loud stuff, outrageous stuff, bad stuff – it was meant to help us notice danger, pay attention to danger, to keep us safe and to keep our loved ones safe, but now, sigh, there’s the internet, you know the internet, like your neighbourhood gossip on steroids, virally, digitally frothing at the mouth.

Sorry Call Me Elf

Texts, tweets, memes, video, posts, gifs, statuses, chats, comments, updates, etc., blaming, blaming, blaming – basically blaming everyone – immigrants, women, social assistance recipients, minorities, religions, etc., well, that won’t get you a job, or make the rich stop screwing you (without consent or foreplay). Just as spewing vitriol won’t change your economic or socioeconomic status, or get you  something you want, or bring back those you love. Sorry Grandma and Grandpa, sorry Mom and Dad, your famous, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” is stone cold dead. We’re all quickly learning you’re entitled to your own opinion and your own facts – just ask The Incredible Trump.

Sorry green is the new orange

Maybe it’s easier to lash out than look in. Is it easier to yell at a clerk? Or scream at a receptionist (by the way, no one was paying any attention to your information until you screamed)? Or sharpen your claws: ‘You’re so brave to wear that shirt.’ Brave, really, I’m not running into a burning building to save babies and puppies, oh I see, you’re being catty. Than to just be nice?

Sorry brave new fashion world

When I asked an ex (note the word ‘ex’, for many, many reasons) why he couldn’t just be nice, his answer was, ‘it’s too much work’. Really? Could that possibly be it? Is it just easier to snark, snarl, sneer? Easier to mock, mimic, moan? Is meanness, ridicule, viciousness, derision a form of laziness?

Sorry Picard trauma

Bad guys, bad boys, charismatic anti-heroes are cool on TV, in movies and books https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/03/06/charming-savage-events/ but in real life, not so much.

Sorry TVD

Then again, if you’re not: molesting, abusing, being racist, getting all mass murdery, killing serially or non-sequentially, making human skin coats, terrorizing, stealing, lying, raping (yes, creepy, horrible Stanford rapist and any other rapists, no still means no and to clarify, unconscious also means no; not difficult to understand), you probably still qualify as ‘nice’, but hopefully we can try to raise the bar way, way higher.

Sorry Harry Potter
Speaking of nice, I’m thrilled (thank you kindly) to be one of the winners of the Blogger’s Pit Stop and The Pinterest Game – please drop by, visit, share, it’s a great way to connect with other bloggers and lots of fun.

Sorry The Doctor
Julie http://juleskalpauli.com/bloggers-pit-stop-27/ featuring: https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/08/27/message-in-a-bottle/ and https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/01/04/so-youve-ruined-your-lifenow-what/
Kathleen https://www.kathleenaherne.com/the-blog/
Janice  http://mostlyblogging.com/
Debbie http://coachdebbieruns.com/
https://www.kathleenaherne.com/pinterest-game-47a/ and
https://www.kathleenaherne.com/pinterest-game-47b/

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Get out there, be a shameless social media self-promoting bloghussy (like me), most of all, enjoy!
Where I’m a complete twit: https://twitter.com/yadadarcyyada
Endlessly baffled by humanity: https://www.facebook.com/yadadarcyyada
The desert where I wander: http://www.pinterest.com/dpark2/
Where I google, not nearly as fun as it sounds: https://plus.google.com/112672588892199127381/posts

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To the best of my knowledge, there’s no standardized testing for ignorance, intolerance, meanness, or unhappiness yet, but I’d buy stocks in that future booming business. Be nice, you don’t know what people have been through or are going through.

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Is it too late to say sorry? ‘Cause I’m missing more than just your bloggy. Yeah, I know-oh-oh, I want to be a good neighbour bloggy (ok, perhaps I’m not going to be rapper anytime soon). I know it’s a busy time of year, but drop by whenever, dears, my blogdoor is always open. Please leave links in the comment box. Drop by often. Enjoy the virtual cake, chocolate, cupcakes, tarts, pies, cookies, and er, liquid refreshments. Meet and greet other bloggers. Introduce yourself. Be kind. Be nice. Have fun. Obvious now I’m from Canada, eh? Sorry.

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    1. Thanks for leaving a link to this amazing post, You couldn’t see me as I was reading it, but I was clapping, loudly – bravo!!!
      Well-said and needs to be said, and often!!!
      Loved and shared. 🙂

      Aww, thanks so much, it’s good to be back. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you kindly. 🙂

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    1. Thanks for leaving a link – congrats on the blogiversary, cheers and to many, many more years!!! 🙂
      Thank you kindly! 🙂
      You can share on Twitter (where I’m a Twit), Facebook (where I’m endlessly baffled by humanity), Pinterest (the desert I wander in), Stumble it, Link it, reblog it, like it – or all the the aforementioned, do whatever you like, we’re here to have fun. 🙂
      Best wishes for the weekend 🙂

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  3. The Incredible Trump – hah, I like that. The man is unbelievable. I’m sorry, I shouldn’t make rude comments about another country’s politicians (you can be rude back about Cameron and Boris Johnson) but the thought of him becoming President is terrifying.
    Here’s a link to my blog, My Dad’s a Goldfish – would be delighted for anyone to drop by. https://marysmith57.wordpress.com

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    1. Mary, it’s always lovely to see you and thanks for leaving your link. 🙂
      As a Canadian (the endless ‘Sorries’ are probably a clue lol), I think I have a vested interest in American politics because of proximity, and it’s scary – like watching a megalomaniac pumpkin snake oil salesman moving in next door and knowing he has weapons of mass destruction, besides his mouth.
      Hope this weekend treats you kindly, all the best. 🙂

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    1. I agree. He was wrong about a lot of things, as it turns out, note the word ‘ex’. 😉
      Hope you can drop by later and leave a link or two. 🙂
      Best wishes for the weekend, April. 🙂

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      2. Glad you made it back, take your time, come back as often as possible and leave as many post as you like (on per link) and social media links ie. Twitter, etc. 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much, and thanks for leaving a link to this wonderful posts that made me cry.
      I’m so sorry to hear about your friend, sending positive thoughts, and wishes for a full and speedy recovery. 🙂
      You’re so right about kindness and you would know. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well. 🙂

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    1. Thank you kindly, it’s good to be back. 🙂
      So glad you dropped by and shared your yummies with us, this one looks completely drool-worthy, like all your recipes. I always feel like baking or cooking after reading your posts. Thank you.
      Hope this weekend is tasty for you. 🙂

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  7. Well done again, Donna! It’s great to see you and your delightful blog getting recognized. (I tried to comment there, but had trouble with the site.)
    Ain’t that the truth that “sometimes we’re sorry we’re not more mean.” I’ve come to realize (that for me) if a situation keeps coming to mind where I wish I had done or said something to stand up for myself — that it’s also because by not doing so, I was allowing that person to harm themselves (and others) by treating me wrongly.
    Your wisdom is more profound than you know. 😀 It’s a fabulous Friday with you.
    Huge hugs. ⭐ 😀 (Off to share!)

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    1. Thank you so much, Teagan, it’s always wonderful to see you. I hope this week has been good for you and the weekend even better – are we going to get a splash of your magical serial, I’ve been trying to find and connect with my inner mancer. 😉
      That is so right on, dear friend, what I do is a social autopsy (a term I learned doing social skills training with my Aspie son), and figure out why I didn’t do something or why I did it, what I could have done, how I could do better in the future, and you’re right again, for me and the others involved. 🙂
      Hope you can pop by later and leave some links to your blog so everyone can enjoy it as much as I do and your social media info too. 🙂
      Best wishes for a fabulous Friday and a wondrous weekend.
      Mega tank you so much for sharing hugs xox

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      1. Donna, I really like the term ‘social autopsy’ very apt. I hope I remember it… but as I repeat it in my head I keep seeing the episode of the X Files that I just watched… social autopsy..
        What a great party you threw! You know how awkward I am about promoting myself. Sorry to make you ask. So here is a link to the latest installment of the novel I’m serializing “The Guitar Mancer.” https://teagansbooks.com/2016/06/11/guitar-mancer-episode-11-seven/
        And… you can also find me at http://www.beBee.com (a social/career network, already big in Spain, and making headway on our continent) where I’m re-posting my old serial “Three Ingredients – Murder at the Bijou” as well as my motivational posts “Thriving Thursdays.”

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      2. I think I know the episode…love the Files, almost called my son Fox, but it just sounded too Country Club, but I was also a big Buffy fan so he got Xander. 😉
        Thanks, it’s ongoing, and I hope everyone keeps coming back, I love the blogcompany. 🙂
        If I wrote like you do, Teagan, I’d be screaming it from the rooftops which now that I think of it might cause a bit of a ruckus, but you get the point. lol 😉
        Hope people follow this link to the magic, and go back to the beginning of the story and all the other stories. 🙂
        Teagan, you reminded me, I signed up for beBee and then sort of neglected it, I’m making a note of it right now.
        Thanks for visiting, dear friend, and for sharing, hope this weekend is treating you well.
        Mega hurray-for-shameless-self-promoting-bloghussies hugs xox

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  8. I don’t get how it’s harder to be nice, but then again I don’t get a lot of things anymore.

    Never a need for you to be sorry, my friend 🙂

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    1. I didn’t get it either, note the ‘ex’ part. lol 😉
      I’m Canadian, the word ‘sorry’ is deeply ingrained. 😉
      Hope you can drop by later with a link.
      Best wishes for the weekend. 🙂

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      2. I hope your world gets less blue although I love the colour blue, the other blue be less lovely, much much less. Big hugs. 🙂
        Thanks for leaving your link – is it wrong that I snorted as the beginning of a big laugh when I read this? Thanks for the snort (thank goodness I wasn’t drinking any liquids, that could have gotten messy). 😉
        Hope this weekend is a tasty one. 🙂

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    1. But you’re back now – yahoo!!! 🙂
      Your post had me laughing, thinking, head-tilting, pondering, giggling, then commenting and sharing. Great post!!! 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well, honestly. 😉

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    1. Thank you so much. 🙂
      We’re all on this blog journey and we’re learning as we go along, don’t know about you, but for me it’s been a big part of the fun. 🙂
      Thanks for being part of our Freshly Unpressed Club, grab some cake before it’s gone. 😉
      Thanks for leaving a link to your blog.
      Hope you have a frugally lovely weekend. 🙂

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    1. Awesome!!! What a way to live! 🙂
      Thanks for leaving your link, Linda, so glad you could make it. Drop by as often as possible and leave as many links and social media links as you’d like. 🙂
      Yup, it’s a Canadian thing, sorry eh. 😉
      Wishing you a wonderful weekend. 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much, you’re too kind. 🙂
      There is only so much time and this time of year is wild, but this can go on and on and people can drop back as often as they want, whenever they can. 🙂
      Thanks for leaving your link to your lovely blog! Wonderful. 🙂
      Best wishes for the weekend. 🙂

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    1. I’m so happy you could drop by, Tess! So pleased you could leave a link to your blog, so others may enjoy it as much as I do. 🙂
      Thanks for the kind words and the visit. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well. 🙂

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  16. Every day we have a choice. Hope or fear. Understanding or distrust. Kindness or bullying. Cooperating with others or oppressing them.

    What a shame that some people see hope, understanding, kindness and cooperation as weaknesses, and fear, distrust, bullying and oppressing as standards for living with others who are different.

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    1. This is so wisdom, Cynthia and you’re so right, all day long we’re given choices, it’s up to us to make them count. 🙂
      Thanks for dropping by, I hope you can pop back later to leave a link or tow or twenty – no time limit, this will be running for days maybe weeks. 😉
      Hope this weekend is kind to you. 🙂

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  17. I was reading in grave contemplation, until I saw the happy DT face, telling me “Thank you very much” and suddenly, all the s*** didn’t seem to hurt as much. Nastiness trumps nice as a general ratio, but nice can often be “awesomely” nice, and much more powerful than nasty. We must all try to be like the Tenth Doctor, who’s always, unflinchingly convinced that there more good in the universe than we think we’re capable of.

    I think you’ve probably read all my recent posts, for me to share any particular one! Thank you very much (big DT grin) for your kindness. Think I’ll share a recent one where I discuss how much I enjoyed writing Bridget Jones fan fiction.

    https://ofopinions.wordpress.com/2016/06/06/of-enjoying-writing/

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    1. Yes, there’s always something to be thankful for, happy about, happy for, kind to, well, you know what I mean, life is full of promise, we just need to recognize and chase it. 🙂
      Thanks for adding your link to the party – and now people can find their way to your lovely blog, I hope they appreciate the Bridget Jonesyness as much as I do, if not, they’re missing out. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well. 🙂

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    1. I always find myself reading your posts nodding, often smiling, sometimes with a tear or too, laughter, but always, with hope, thank you. 🙂
      I’m so glad you stopped by to leave link and such a wonderful one. I could never give up hope, it’s my best friend, always there when I need it. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you kindly. 🙂

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  19. Thank you for the wonderful post Darcy. You shared so much wisdom, tucked in between the funny bits. Truly, every day is a choice. To choose kindness, to choose to look for the good in people and situations, to choose to try again, to choose to breathe instead of lashing out, to choose to see others as people with struggles–just like us. Thanks for brightening my day.

    Thanks for the opportunity to leave a link to my blog. Been at this a month now:) Having fun and learning a lot along the way.
    https://goodbeautifulandtrue.wordpress.com/blog/

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    1. Thank you kindly, I’m so glad you enjoyed it. I know everyone is busy this time of year, there’s so much going on so I thought I’d pop in this bit of love for my readers, so glad you could leave a link so others can find your blog. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well, feel free to drop by again and leave more links and any social media links. 🙂

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    1. Awwwm you’re so kind, thank you, I am Canadian, sorry comes all too naturally. 😉
      Hope you can drop back in at some point and share some post links and social media links, Jan. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well. 🙂

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    1. Thank you kindly, John, it’s always so lovely to have you visit. 🙂
      Nasty is as nasty does seems to be too often true.
      You’re very welcome and thanks for leaving a link to your great blog, please feel free to come back and leave as many links as you’d like and any social media links as well. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well. 🙂

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  24. When I want to see how the world is turning, I watch 30 minutes of national news and listen to the ridiculous chatter, stories they consider news, and what’s trending and going viral. It is pretty easy to sink to levels where you don’t care about how your words affect another person when it is all done under the cloak of social media.

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    1. That is so true, Judy, it seems like nothing is off limits and not enough people are thinking about what they’re saying and the impact.
      Thanks for stopping by, Judy, hope you can return later to share a post. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well. 🙂

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    1. Thank you kindly, congrats on your blogging birthday! Happy Blog Birthday! Cheers and to many more blogging years! 🙂
      Thanks for leaving your link, feel free to pop by as often as you can and leave as many links to post and social media as you’d like. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well. 🙂

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    1. Thank you kindly. 🙂
      So glad you could drop by and leave a link, feel free to pop back whenever you can and leave some links to posts and/or social media. 🙂
      Hope this weekend treats you well. 🙂

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    1. Thank you kindly. 🙂
      So glad you could drop by and leave a post eh. 😉 It made me want to go swimming, don’t have an ocean nearby so I’ll settle for a pool I guess. 😉
      Hope this weekend treats you well, feel free to drop by as often as you like and leave as many links as you’d like, fellow Canadian. 🙂

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  29. Hi Donna,
    My favorite part was the man in the hat that said “Share a Post”. Then, (squeal!) I saw Blogger’s Pit Stop written on the sign! Thank you!
    I used to watch Hulk with Bill Bixby i think all the time.
    Janice

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    1. Hi Janice,
      Yes, Bryan Cranston/Walter White/Heisenberg, ‘Breaking Bad’, I made that mag on Canva, it was fun to add stuff like Blogger’s Pit Stop and The Pinterest Game. 🙂
      I loved that show too, I was always impressed Bixby could find his size and style of clothes after he changed from The Hulk, of course, there were more clotheslines around in those days. 😉
      Hope this weekend is treating you well, hope you can pop by later and leave some links to your posts. 🙂

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    1. Yahoo and I understand completely, I’m thinking of unplugging for awhile too, regenerating (that sounded more Time Lordy than it is), recharging. 🙂 Hope it when well for you. 🙂 Alaska is sort of part of Canada just by proximity (er, sort of) and we’re good neighbours with America, so cool (in more ways than one).
      Thanks for stopping by and leaving the link to your frolicky fun post, drop by anytime.
      Hope this weekend is treating you well…eh. 😉

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      1. LOL – by all means, Time Lordy, Wibbly Wobbly, Timey-Wimey stuff is perfectly all right with me!
        Recharging and regenerating…I like the sound of that.
        😀

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    1. How very true, sad but true.
      Hope you can drop by later and leave a link to one (or more) of your posts, ie. comment one or the many, many others. 🙂
      Hope this weekend is being kind to you so far, genuinely kind. 🙂

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      23. Can’t you and ArtOut just get a room or at least pick up the telephone? I signed up to get responses from the post you shared on OM but my delete button finger no work no more. ~~dru~~
        hee hee hee!

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  33. I’m still in shock at the attitude that nice, reliable, kind, dependable, and basically all of the things I was taught to be are considered “uncool.” I love nice people, and consider myself to *mostly* be one. The internet is definitely not the place to find kindness, especially on political posts, but I do believe we can all choose to raise that bar.
    Meanwhile, I hope the weekend is going well for you! I’m sweltering in the pit of hell, er, my neighborhood. 🙂

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    1. I agree, so much of what we were taught is just not happening anymore or just the opposite, it’s a little freaky. 😉
      We’re sweltering here, it’s hot but also sticky, humid, like we’re in a sauna without the pleasant clean your pores out and maybe drop some weight side effects. Hope you stay cool. And when you get a chance, stop by again (no rush)ave some links to your amazing blog so others can follow the blogging breadcrumb trail to you. 🙂
      Stay cool and ‘cool’. 😉

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      1. Are you sure you’re not here in the California desert? We’ve been above 100, but also reaching more than 30% humidity. For us, that normally doesn’t happen until August. I’m stuck on the treadmill these days, unless I’m out the door by 5 a.m.

        I forgot to post my blog address at all ~ it’s bellesmots2000.com. As you know, I blog about life after cancer, writing, and quotes that inspire me each week. I’m working my way into incorporating some memes these days, since they’re fun.

        I’ll be hiding under a/c, much like you this weekend, so I can hopefully manage at least one type of cool!

        https://bellesmots2000dotcom.wordpress.com/ (for a touch of my insanity, haha).

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      2. No, but it sure feels like it here in Southwestern Ontario these days!
        Thanks for dropping back and leaving your blog link, I know people will be pleased if they follow the link back to you! 🙂
        Stay cool, or at least try! 🙂

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    1. Ditto, Rob, thanks for reblogging this and hope you can drop by later to leave some links to your posts and/or social media links as well so others can find your wonderful blog. 🙂

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  35. Reblogged this on Art by Rob Goldstein and commented:
    if you’re not: molesting, abusing, being racist, getting all mass murdery, killing serially or non-sequentially, making human skin coats, terrorizing, stealing, lying, raping (yes, creepy, horrible Stanford rapist and any other rapists, no still means no and to clarify, unconscious also means no; not difficult to understand), you probably still qualify as ‘nice’, but hopefully we can try to raise the bar way, way higher.

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    1. Thank you so much, Rob, for the lovely reblog, so kind of you. 🙂
      Yes, that’s quite the list and hopefully we can raise the bar way, way higher. 🙂
      Hope this weekend is treating you well and it’s cool wherever you are. 🙂

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  36. Being nice is a reflection of one true self. But if being nice is not because genuinity, then it has lost its meaning. To exhibit such good intentions and actions all comes from individuals who want the best outcome for others. I hope that others would take the time to learn that being nice does not mean you are weak it means that you are a strong and beautiful person who makes a difference to others. 🙂

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    1. Very wise words, thank you for sharing them with us. 🙂
      Hope you can make it back to leave us some post links, social media links, etc. The party is still hopping! 🙂
      Best wishes for the rest of the weekend. 🙂

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  37. There are sooo many talented bloggers I follow (you included and I’m not pretending here, I checked and my nose is not brown). Two that come to mind are:

    https://janebasilblog.wordpress.com

    Jane Basil is a wonderful and talented human being who is strong enough to share her vulnerability. She is the essence of survival.

    https://walkearth.org

    Susan Feathers is a very talented writer and she lives in my town! She stands up for her beliefs and good causes. This wonderful woman walks the talk.

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    1. Thank you for sharing these blogs, I was not aware of either and I’m so pleased you brought them to the party! Thank you, there’s never enough lovely guests at a party. 🙂
      Hope you can come back again and this weekend is treating you well. 🙂

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  38. NIce to see you back Donna. I hope you’re doing okay and enjoying the nice weather. And just thought I’d add that it is certainly easy to be nice to someone, it doesn’t cost anything. (Unless of course they are a deserving Ahole, lol. 🙂

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    1. Debby, so glad you could visit, hope you can drop by again later to share your blog link, or some post links, and/or social media links so others can visit your lovely blog. 🙂
      Hope this weekend is good to you. 🙂

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      2. Debby, this is a great post, I can never figure out why big corporations feel like they have to trick people, impose their will, squeeze more money out, make fools of their customers, etc. Out of touch, power-tripping, forgetting what it’s like to be a customer, I don’t know, but your post was enlightening, if sad. 🙂

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      3. Thanks Donna. Agreed on all counts. And I’m happy to know that I’ve rescued several blogging pals with this post too. 🙂

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      4. That’s wonderful that you could help. 🙂
        “Bill Gates is a very rich man today… and do you want to know why? The answer is one word: versions.” ~Dave Barry

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  44. I guess if I had to choose, I’d prefer to have to deal with people who at least had a stab at playing nice rather than ones who were outright nasty. People who are genuinely nice would obviously be my first choice, though.

    It’s probably late a bit late to leave a link, but here’s something I wrote about graffiti. Despite the title, it’s not entirely serious.

    http://bunkaryudo.com/graffiti/
    🙂

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    1. You’re right the first choice is always genuinely nice people, everything after that is all shades of compromise. 🙂
      Never too late to leave a link, thanks for stopping by, hope this week treats you kindly. 🙂

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  45. Hi, Donna. I’m not gonna leave a link one of my posts this time…because life has me by the short and curlys ATM and I haven’t the time (or brain cells) to join in fairly, but thought I’d poke my head in and wave to all *waves*… and, wanted to say Yah-you for hosting what looks like another ding-dong-of-a-do 🙂

    Great post… I’m always struck by how much work goes into your posts… ! Wishing you (all) a great week. Kimmie x

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    1. Kimmie, I know just what you mean and to be honest, this party was probably biting off a bit more than I can chew and that’s saying something, but it was fun. Drop by later when you get time, the post will stay and people can find your awesomeness! 😉

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  46. I’m helping myself to two slices of your virtual cake because this week has been a bit of a wild one when it comes to mean/nice people.

    Now I’m reading your post and enjoying virtual cake as a reward. Thanks! 🙂

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    1. Take as much as you’d like, it’s a new recipe, I hope you’re enjoying it. 😉
      I understand about the wild week and unfortunately about the mean/nice people. Hope the upcoming week is a calmer one.
      Please drop by later, if you get a chance and leave some links to your posts so others can find you, hopefully nice others.
      Best wishes. 🙂

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  47. I’m taking two slices, too. So…maybe we should get more cake. I can’t stand it anymore. It takes too much energy to be nice? I don’t understand that logic. (And after what happened in Florida…I can’t believe you wrote this post before that. I guess it’s fitting anytime. Be nice.) ❤

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    1. You’re right, Sarah, we should never run out of cake, that seems wrong on so many levels. 😉
      Yeah, I know, note the word ‘ex’. 😉
      I was so saddened to hear about what happened in Orlando, on the 10 and 11th, I can’t understand what happens to a person’s brain to do that, any violence, I just don’t get it. Being nice takes no energy, hate and angry and prejudice, those seem like hard work.
      Hope this week treats you kindly. Please feel free to drop by and leave links. 🙂

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    1. Share your links here in the comment box, to posts (as you did), or your blog (as others have done) and/or social media links (as others ave done). 🙂
      And/or you can share my post to Twitter, Pinterest, Facebook, Tumblr, Reddit, Stumbleupon, LinkedIn, reblog, etc., if you like, not necessary, but always appreciated.
      And if you like, you can press like. 😉 Hope that helps clear it up.
      Best wishes for the week ahead. 🙂

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    1. Thank you for having me, it was a lovely visit and I hope to do more. 🙂
      Thanks for dropping by and leaving a link so others can follow your blogging breadcrumb trail. 🙂
      Hope this week treats you kindly. 🙂

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    1. Never too late for you, Janice, this is ongoing, thanks for leaving a link to your helpful blog. 🙂
      Hope this week is treating you kindly. 🙂
      I haven’t got to your awesome Monday Linky yet, but I’m working my way over there, it’s always fun. 🙂

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    1. It looks like the Blogger Bash was a smash! I’m so glad everyone had a wonderful time! You’re right, bloggers rule! Feel free to drop by later and share a post. Hope his week treats you kindly. 🙂

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  58. Ha ha, cleverly done, Donna! Incredible Trump! That’s precious! What can one say about this man! I think it has all been said! Poor USA if he gets in! Keep smiling and being nice! 😆

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    1. Really nice and made me hungry.
      I know you know how to be nice, wouldn’t the world be a better place if everyone understood how easy it is? 🙂
      Thanks for leaving a link so others can follow the blogging breadcrumb trail to your wonderful blog. 🙂
      Hope this week treats you kindly.

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    1. True, a wise woman.
      Hope you can pop back later (no rush) and share a post or two so others can find your inspiring blog. 🙂
      Hope this week treats you kindly. 🙂

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    1. Excellent reminder, Carol, and I think your tips work for many things other than studying, in fact, I was trying to do this and the TV was on, and I read that about the multi-tasking and sighing, I turned off the TV; it is a young person’s game although I don’t think they do it as well as they think they do either. 😉
      And you’re right about being nice too and you would know. 🙂
      Hope this week treats you kindly. 🙂

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  67. Soldiering on with a spring in the step and a smile on the lips is the only thing to be done. My recent ex was wrong about so much too and is currently incandescent with rage. Bliss to be us, darling, bliss to be us and not them!

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    1. Thanks for dancing over to the blog party, Jacob, and thanks for sharing your blog link. That’s quite a assortment of refreshments…I definitely need something for my brain. 😉
      Hope everything went well in the loo and hope the rest of the week moves along well. 😉

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  70. I think I should start counting now how many times I tell you that your post is great… Thanks for being so nice and invite us to leave a link… Let’s be nice with each other! Very happy to share two links actually, if you don’t mind. And a little back story. It all started when I discovered a post about 100 questions someone thought nobody would ever ask. So I did it and answered those questions only to realize that most of them must have been asked a million times already. So I decided to give it a go and come up with questions I think nobody would ask in the hope that my readers would answer them (many did): https://amommasview.wordpress.com/2016/06/02/questions-i-think-nobody-ever-asks/

    And now one of my followers (oh she is amazing) found herself inspired by my questions and not only answered them but came up with a list of her own, which I of course answered as well (and I think you should actually have a go on my list and Willow’s list and please, please, please link back to our blogs so we get to read your answers…). Here are Willow’s questions: https://willowscottling.wordpress.com/2016/06/15/willows-got-questions/

    And if you still care about questions and answers, here are my answers to Willow’s questions: https://amommasview.wordpress.com/2016/06/16/willows-got-questions/

    Hey, Darcy, waiting for your answers, by the way 😉

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    1. We’ve got a mutual admiration society and that can’t be bad, in fact, it’s really really nice. 🙂
      Thank you so much for sharing these awesome posts, love love love the questions and the answers and after reading Willow’s answers, I’m following her blog as well. Ahhh, the questions, ok, hoisted on my own petard or is that Picard? I’ve copied and pasted the questions and promise to work on it. 🙂
      Thanks for always giving it the best go possible, hope this week is treating you kindly so far. 🙂

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  71. OMG! I’m number 200 to like your blog.

    Everyone is a mix of badness and goodness, just ask Captain Kirk. His evil half was torn away from his good half, and it wasn’t pretty. Come to think of it, he never was pretty to begin with — and those girdles he had to wear…

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    1. So right, I wonder, did the bad Kirk make the good Kirk wear the girdles and hairpieces or the other way around, so many questions with out answers – live long and perspire in a girdle?

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  73. Thanks for the follow! and for the links to my questions! i hope you find them interesting enough to give them a go. Sandra’s questions were interesting too. She’s the one that started all of this (she admits it too!) ^_^

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    1. I’m going to give them a try, I’ll try to just answer quickly without overthinking it, hmmm, easier said than done.
      Thanks for dropping by, pop back as often as you’d like to leave as many links to posts as you want – the more the merrier!!! 🙂

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