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Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?


Society is degenerating to a constant state of anxiety and fear, especially the fear of missing out. What if we missed an email, text, post, tweet, party, sale, invitation, night out, gossip, especially about celebrities, trips, trends…what if we just missed something? The only thing we don’t fear missing out on…voting.


While reading Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) by the stunningly beautiful, talented, and hilarious Mindy Kaling (Three Rivers Press) I had an a-ha moment. The book itself was funny, charming, authentic, very much what you’d expect from the writer and star of The Mindy Project and The Office, she’s a hot mess and makes it work, but I started thinking about why more and more people are more depressed, stressed, anxious, suicidal, homicidal, etc. than ever, even children. I’m sure there are multiple reasons, but being in constant contact, rampant consumerism, extreme inequality, and fear of missing out must be high on the list.

So a bunch of money-grubbing, self-regulating corporations appeal to natural human curiosity, use culturally complex language, jargon, fear of missing out, pop culture references, celebrities, and even bullying to ensure we feel compelled to consume, which leads to wanting and buying and consuming even more which leads to, well, you get the picture. This isn’t just adults, we’re letting our children be groomed, to be exploited, for profit. Isn’t there a name for that?
The good news, there’s no need to stop consuming, or watching TV, or going on the internet…we just slow down and consider the source, who will profit.

Symptoms of  a fear of missing out may include, but are not limited to:


1. Forgetting those you love or those in need while rushing around trying not to miss out.
2. Rationalizing buying products manufactured under deplorable conditions.
3. Describing wants as needs or worse believing wants are needs.
4. Obsessing about products, services, and activities.
5. Putting items above people.

There is hope. Some people might be doing things you’re not or having things you’re not, that doesn’t mean they’re happier or more content. It’s not a contest. Hopefully this will all level out and people will finally see what’s important instead of what’s advertised.
Since the holiday season is already being forced on us to stretch out the shopping and socializing so we’ll spend more, don’t fear missing out, celebrate what you have.




Very me

25 thoughts on “Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?

      1. Have taken the liberty of posting this on FB, under a small group known as SPIN – Society for Prevention of Internet Narcissism. Hope that would meet with your approval!


      2. Thank you so much, that’s very kind of you. 🙂 It looks great and I shared it with the name of the group (which I liked, it’s cool). Thanks again. 🙂


  1. I wonder if, as you get older, you start not giving a s*-@t any more. I found in my twenties and thirties, I had to be everywhere. Forties, I wasn’t having an aneurysm if I missed something, but close. Fifty hit and I now live a live of, “been there, done that, couldn’t be bothered”. But my interests and goals have changed and don’t involve a replica of the set of Friends. I’m happier.


    1. I think you’ve done so in a natural progression, some people seem to want more and more and to do more and more, even as they get older.
      Better to be happier. 🙂
      Hope your weekend is going purrrr-fectly. 😉


  2. “Symptoms of a fear of missing out may include, but are not limited to” is the best 5 things that we all do. Rationalizing is one of those things that can’t be missed.


    1. Thank you so much, so kind of you to share my posts. I’m so glad to hear people like my posts, if I can bring a smile, it makes it all worth while. 🙂
      Thank you again and again and hope the weekend is good to everyone and the week ahead treats you kindly. 🙂


  3. Reblogged this on yadadarcyyada and commented:

    Is this what’s wrong with us, FOMO – Christmas Fear of Missing Out? You’re not missing out, you’re saving someone. Christmas, the spirit of Christmas – kindness, compassion, empathy, joy, hope – those should always be in our heart.


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