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Very ME!

Posted on by D. Parker

I have always been me and despite many attempts to make me not me, I still seem to manage to be me. That’s not always a good thing. Read some of my stuff, comment, critique, praise, ignore, puzzle, or just do whatever you want. That’s my blog bio entitled, “Very Me”; has been since 2013…

Taylor Swift’s song, ME! is making ME rethink my Very Me title, so I’m running a contest to help ME pick a new blog bio title, with no prizes whatsoever, except knowing you’ve helped ME!

Connection comes with risk. Always has, always will. Connecting offers up our minds, hearts, who we are, who we want to be, who we don’t want to be – all wide open! Connection has many benefits: love, happiness, acceptance, companionship…but there’s a flip side, we also open ourselves to: rejection, disappointment, ridicule, pain, and a whole other host of suffering.


Do the best you can
until you know better.
Then
when you know better,
do better.
~Maya Angelou

I’m wrong a lot,
no, maybe wrong
is the wrong word.
I’m on a persistent path of change.
Sometimes I want that change.
Sometimes I don’t.
Sometimes I’m not even aware
things have changed until…well,
that’s another story for another day.

None of this means we should stop trying to connect. Connect cautiously.

Beware, connection machines like:
Taylor Swift,
Ryan Reynolds,
Cristiano Ronaldo,
Selena Gomez,
all the sundry Kardashians/Jenners,
Kanye West,
Ariana Grande,
Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson,
Camila Cabello,
various ‘Royals’,
Jordan Peele (new Twilight Zone, nice and out there),
Beyonce,
each and every Marvel hero and villain
Anyone see or want to see Avengers: Endgame?
No spoilers.
Now waiting for Toy Story 4?
The Big Bang Theory or Game of Thrones finales? (The Big Game of Thrones Bang Theory?)
They always have us waiting for something;
Disney, Apple, McDonald’s,
Toyota, Microsoft, Wendy’s,
Visa, Post, Nike, Samsung,
ACME, Kraft, Mastercard,
BMW, Trump, LG, Walmart,
Sony, Burger King,
Volkswagon, Huawei,
Warner Bros, etc. –
are all about selling.
Fluff connections.

People love the rich and famous (or simply infamous), or hate them (or love to hate them), often for all the same reasons, and pay way too much attention to them and way too much money (even money they don’t have) to be like them. Connection should bring us together for the greater good not just to make us want to buy more goods.

Social media whips people into a frenzy of, er, frothy connection with a cultivated, data-driven mix of: exaggerated praise, repetition, cruel attacks, misunderstandings, FOMO, repetition, deliberately aggressive language, SEO, influencers, native advertising, gossip, repetition, etc. True connection isn’t about massive numbers, they might be impressive, but what do they really mean?

People are people,
no matter their title,
bank accounts,
wheels,
clothes,
or what they use to connect.
It’s choice,
your connections to make.
Like blogging, you put an offering
of your mind and heart
into a blog post,
press Publish
trying for a real connection.
Good stuff: readers feeling something (yeah!!!),
comments, follows, shares, likes.
Bad stuff: readers feeling something (shudder!!!),
rude comments, unfollows, threats.
Sometimes, simply silence, like digital crickets
(in blogspace no one can hear you blogscream).

Newsflash, you can’t get any connection without beginning. If you want to connect, find people with common interests, start a club, join a club, (except a serial killer club, skip that meeting and report it); find people you’d like to know, not just those you think you should know. If you want to blog, write a blog post. Publish it (this part is super important). Connect with other bloggers, readers, etc.

Here are a few of my past, umm, attempts at connection…

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/04/10/im-hooked-on-a-feeling/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2017/01/06/im-not-inclined-to-resign-to-maturity/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2019/03/25/welcome-to-your-life/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2016/06/10/cant-you-just-pretend-to-be-nice/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/08/27/message-in-a-bottle/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2019/01/26/two-can-keep-a-secret-if-one-of-them-is-dead/


https://yadadarcyyada.com/2016/09/16/you-had-me-at-cake/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2013/08/31/fibromylagia-is-just-another-word-for-lazy/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/07/15/see-you-again/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2017/02/02/theres-no-crying-in-blogging/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2019/02/06/dont-stop-me-now/

But wait, there’s more!

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/01/04/so-youve-ruined-your-lifenow-what/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/06/21/how-to-get-your-book-published/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2014/03/20/25-ways-to-stay-alive-in-a-horror-movie/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/04/22/all-the-ways-im-told-im-stupid-everyday/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2014/08/25/rock-paper-scissors-lizard-spock/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2014/04/07/you-know-youre-obsessed-with-game-of-thrones-when/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2016/05/25/crapathy/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/04/19/50-things-to-get-busy-doing-before-50/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2015/02/20/compassion-never-goes-out-of-style/

https://yadadarcyyada.com/2018/08/22/umbrella/

So shake it off, we know All Too Well that Haters Gonna Hate. Connect anyway…Look What you Made Me Do, I’m blogging again.

Ways to contact me (on my ‘home’ planet):  darcyyada@gmail.com

I’m a perfect twit (on come on now, no one is perfect):  https://twitter.com/yadadarcyyada

Rarely there, but almost always baffled by humanity: https://www.facebook.com/yadadarcyyada

The desert where I wander (mostly looking for desserts):  http://www.pinterest.com/dpark2/

I really don’t mind
if you want to send ME
free stuff
(trying to sound
cool about it, but…
I love free stuff!).
I gratefully accept
promotional materials,
but respectfully reserve
the right to decide whether
said promotional material
are suitable for my blog.
100% honest reviews
and the opinions,
thoughts, and beliefs
will be my own,
not that of the provider,
party, or manufacturer.

Donations also gratefully accepted (but certainly not required) to offset blogging (not chocolate) costs. Help save the endangered broke and obscure bloggers who once roamed the internet free. It’s Paypal, for anyone including, but not limited to eccentric billionaires who want to adopt a broke and obscure blogger.

Bloggers struggling (like ME!) with the new “Block” or “Gutenberg” Editor on WordPress, yes, it’s difficult, if anyone tells you differently they have a Premium account, are a computer genius or maybe they’re a computer!

Is it worth it? I don’t see it. Classic Editor, basic and awkward, yes, but this is waaaaaaay more time-consuming.

Easier for those new to WP, ha, like they care, we’re all just lab rats in their data experiments. Wish they’d bring back the editor from 2013 – fast, easy, so very very easy. I did this post as a test, what do you think dear readers, stay with this or go back to the Classic?

Oh and I almost forgot, please follow my blog https://yadadarcyyada.com

Goodbye Peter Mayhew,
forever in our hearts
as Chewbacca.
“GGGWARRRHHWWWW.”
“AAARARRRGWWWH.”
“RRRAARRWHHGWWR.”
Indeed, words to live by.

On Star Wars Day
(isn’t that every day?)
May The Fourth Be With You
(and Happy Revenge of the Fifth,
though I prefer to
celebrate on May 6th,
after Cinco de Mayo,
makes more sense).
Hope each day
treats you kindly.

Author:

Very me

80 thoughts on “Very ME!”

  3. “Why Darcy Yadas”…. No? It is certainly better than “Click to see the me-est me there ever can be”, isn’t it? I mean, a play on the blog’s name and everything….

    Don’t be jealous, but on my old laptop, I – Have – the – 2013 – editor. Really. Someone posted a registry hack when they got rid of it on how to get it back. Yep, party like it’s pre-Trump era on Trent’s old laptop….

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  4. I love your posts, Donna. You always make me smile. And btw, I agree with you about the WordPress attempts to make things easier. It has just made me search harder for the place to click for doing my posts the old-fashioned (better) way. The new stuff is so frustrating!
    Have a good 4th, 5th, 6th, etc, of May.

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    1. Thank you kindly, now see, you’re making me smile, then again, you always do. 🙂
      Clearly WordPress loves their unofficial motto, “If it ain’t broke, break it.”.
      May The Fourth Be With You and hope each and every day treats you kindly. 🙂

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  5. As always, you have so many great observations embedded in your post! It’s weird because I’ve heard a lot about the new editor, but I haven’t seen it on my blog (not a premium one), but it’s on my father’s paid website/blog thru WordPress. I like the way things are – not looking for a change! Happy Blogging to you!

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    1. Change is such an odd word, it can mean good or bad or just change, but with this editor it means, horrible terrible no-good very bad thing. 😉
      Hope this weekend treats you kindly. 🙂

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  7. How about Me Personally since it’s always er,…. you personally, and nobody does personally like you do.I’d love to buy you but those devious bar-stewards at the Lotto are deliberately ignoring me. You are always a breath of fresh air. Having been bruised and battered in hospital this week you’ve lifted me from the trough of despond. Thank you Donna.
    xxx Massive Hugs xxx

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    1. I know right, what is it about lotteries, just give us all some money, we promise to spend it and help the economy!!! Cross our hearts…
      Oh no, dear David, how are you doing now? I hope you are home and doing better, please say you are. I’m sending best wishes and vibes across The Pond right to you. 🙂
      Massive good luck on the lottery and better luck with the lottery of life hugs xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

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    1. And now riddling our posts with ads and ruining them. Aaaarggghh!!!
      Oh, I like that, I’m adding it to the list, thanks Barb and hope this weekend is treating you kindly. 🙂

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  12. Super post. “A” for effort, “A” for results and excellent sense of humor. I get an “F” for not offering a new title. But that is good because I always look for your yadadarcyyada title and might miss one if you changed the name. Besides, my laptop is only black and white and runs on coal — so I don’t really understand some of your gifs.

    Wally

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    1. lol You’re too funny and too kind. I think I’m sticking with the title, for now and as for the “About Me” aka “Very Me”, it’s still so Very Me. 😉
      Hope this weekend treats you kindly. 🙂

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  13. A new blog title, eh? That’s a hard one. How about “more than me”?

    I suspect that eventually WP will stop supporting the classic editor, and we’ll be forced to use the block editor. You did a good job on this post using the new editor.

    May the Fourth be with you.

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    1. I’m pretty sure I’ll be long gone from WordPress by the time they force us to use the horrible new Editor, but thank you for your kind words.

      Hope this weekend gives you plenty of peace, love and understanding. 🙂

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    1. I like that, Scanner…Thank you for the suggestion, wow, I’m getting some great ones, I’m glad you all are letting me pick your brains (I’ll be gentle). 🙂
      Hope this weekend is being good to you so far. 🙂

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      2. It was lovely…not right now, we have the heat but a monster storm to go with it. Hope the sun shines for you at least in your heart, dear Debby. Big bloggy hugs xox

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    1. We’ve moved from Spring to Summer way too quickly, I’d like a few more Spring days, but I’m enjoying the warmth so I’ll take what I can get. Hope you’re enjoying this weekend and to a wonder-filled week ahead. 🙂

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  19. It is always good to read a post by you. Connections — People who bring out the best in us, people who make us want to do better. They are treasures when we find them.

    I use a combination of the Classic Editor and the ‘Thing that Never Quite Replaced the Classic Editor’ because it has better SEO features. Weird, huh?

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    1. I dislike all the editors since the old one in 2013, the one that was easy and great, but this new one, I have no words (I do but they’re blue). 😉
      Thanks for connecting. 🙂

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  20. Donna, I’m sorry to be so late. If you could see my hive covered arms and face and scaly red eyelids… It’s been going on for awhile now. But I’m already bored with my self pity party.
    My friend, the greatest prize of all would be helping you. I submit for your bio, “Determinedly Donna.” Because I couldn’t agree more about how important it is to retain who we are. And because I love who you are.

    Oh, and I’m “smad” at WordPress. It’s huge work to build a following, Then they blithely and repeatedly remove follows, evaporate notifications, and generally let their gremlins run amok. Hang in there my friend. I hope the day is not as long as expected — unless of course that’s in a very good way. Hugs on the wing.

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    1. Oh no, Teagan, I’m so sorry to hear about your troubles. Are you feeling any better? I sincerely hope so. You deserve to throw as many pit parties as you want and I will attend them all. As for being late, please, look at me, I’m so late I’m early. 😉 Any time you drop by is an awesome time, my blog door is always open.
      Determinedly Donna, I like that, excellent suggestion. Doubt I’ll be on WordPress much longer, with all the glitches, horrible new Editor and this latest greedy twist, ruining our posts with ads riddling them. Aaaaarrrggghhh! If it wasn’t for WordPress this would have been a good week, busy but good so I’ll blithely ignore their arrogant corporate greed and look around for other options.
      Hope this weekend treats you kindly and that it’s a long relaxing weekend for you.
      Mega Every time I go on your blog it says I’m not Following you, but I follow and follow and will continue to follow hugs xoxoxox

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  21. If it’s any consolation, Donna, my “about” page is the same from when I began this blog, which I think was January 2014. I suppose I could-should refresh it, but then again, I’m not blogging as often as you are. As ever, I’m glad you’re the you that you appear to be (meaning, the “you” that we are able to see via your words online), which sounds kinda crazy but I hope you get my meaning. Have an awesome Mother’s Day (if you celebrate)!

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    1. lol Oh yeah. 😉
      Thanks for dropping by and hope you have a, ok, I’m going to go with ‘interesting’ (in a good way) Victoria Day weekend, I’m guessing in your line of work it’s a weird and wild weekend. 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much, Ian, I’m behind on my comments, but my sentiment remains the same, I am very grateful so this reblog and your kindness. I hope this weekend is treating you well so far. Any ideas for a new title for my bio? 😉
      Best wishes today and every single day. xox

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    1. Thank you so much for your kindness, Ian, I appreciate the reblog. Leave it to you to do good for others while having difficulties. I hope things get less blocked and much better. xox

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  26. I am SO GLAD to hear your thoughts on the new editor. I’ve tried it, and I find it SO annoying. I’m clinging to the old one for as long as possible.

    A previous commenter remarked on your virtual brilliance. To that I say, Hear Hear!

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    1. Bloggers feel the need to get stuff out of our heads, that’s what keeps us going and going and going…I think. 😉
      Thank you so much for the amazing reblog, dear Jonathan and hope you have a wonder-filled week. 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much for the remarkable reblog, Ian. Hope things have been well (all things considered). Thanks again for the #bloglove and hope this week treats you kindly. Big bloggy hugs xox

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