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What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stranger?

1funny450I don’t think I fully understand the phrase, “the unexpected virtue of ignorance”.

I also don’t fully get, “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger”. Really? Does it? And does this clichéd Nietzsche quote apply to information as well?

Not knowing things can make us happier, but is ignorance really bliss, or just the illusion of bliss? Knowing stuff we don’t want to know could make us stronger, though, I wonder, would that make us consciously or unconsciously seek out or create adversity, to give us something to feel strong about, as we search for something to make us feel that we matter, or that we even exist.

Hmmm, perhaps all this deep pondering arose from watching the gracefully snarling interpretation of celebrities and society in Birdman or (The Unexpected Virtue of Ignorance). Michael Keaton was nothing short of epic as an actor who once had everything, but made problems in his life to make himself feel relevant. Everyone in the film, his daughter, partner, friend, fellow actors, critics, fans were all seeking their own relevance while trying to ignore the consequences of being relevant.


I suppose the unexpected virtue of ignorance is that not knowing things allows you to believe whatever you want to believe. For example, I believe:

1. Things I think will take 5 minutes often take 10.

2. I’m mystified and weirdly impressed that in this busy world people still seem to find plenty of time to pass judgment on others.

3. Labels, on clothes or people must be understood to be used properly.

4. There are countless ways to die, turns out, you can’t avoid all of them.


5. My book of life might have a misprinted answers section.

6. If it seems too good to be true…read the first part of the sentence again, I wish I had.

7. Yes, the truth is out there, but we don’t always recognize it.

8. Some days you’re the seagull, other days you’re the coat.

9. The Earth has been here for billions of years. It doesn’t need humans, it’ll be fine without us, can we say the same?

10. The Secret is…they sold a lot of books by saying there was a Secret.

11. Even if someone offers you a lot of money, don’t build an amusement park with cloned dinosaurs, seriously…except if Jeff Goldblum will be there, yes, I’m that shallow.

12. You’re not going to need a bigger boat, just a smaller shark.

13. Media and even social media seem to care more about when an actor dies than alive children being beaten, starved, raped, or used as slaves…to be fair, those children never played Saruman, Count Dooku, or Dracula. RIP Christopher Lee, but let’s have some perspective.

14. It’s awkward when someone asks you how you are and you forget they don’t really want to know.

15. That people used to take drugs to make the world look stranger, and now they take drugs to make the world look less strange.


16. All the world’s a stage and I can’t afford an acting coach.

17. You’re not responsible for anyone else’s happiness. People may tell you, in many ways, you are…you’re not.

18. People say love is all you need; oxygen’s still my number #1.

19. I wouldn’t mind being poor, if I just had more money to do it with.

20. Sometimes that light at the end of the tunnel is a huge truck whose driver is texting…sigh.

21. Some people will believe just about anything they see on the internet is true, but if you post a ‘Wet Paint’ sign, they’ll have to touch it to make sure it’s actually wet paint.

22. Last but never least, I believe you should enjoy the here and now…




Very me

113 thoughts on “What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stranger?

  1. Well … All I can say D. Parker is that I love your mind. Also … don’t forget Peter Dr Vries … “I love writing. I just can’t stand the paperwork.” Great, great post. Kris.


  2. “…..but made problems in his life to make himself feel relevant…” hmmmm. Jane Fonda comes to mind (though I do believe she’s being sincere…..still). ‘what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger’ really does need an overhaul. You and I have likely often seen how what doesn’t kill, only serves to weaken and induce depression. One has to be in a rather privileged position to even offer up such a philosophic comment–which is all it is. Your observations are keen and often needle sharp .


    1. Yes, I think it’s been turned into a platitude that makes people think adversity makes you a superhero.
      Thank you kindly for dropping by and sharing your insights, hope this day treats you kindly. 🙂


      1. So far, so good. Saw The Avengers with my son and besides the woman who apparently thought we’d all paid to listen to her, it was awesome! How about you? 😉


  3. Great list! And I love Jeff Goldblum, too 🙂 I saw Jurassic World yesterday, add it to your list for when it comes out on video! Y’all will love it! Oxygen is my #1, too. And, I have stopped asking people how they are if I can’t stop and listen to the answer. I found it rude how that became such a throw-away question in our society, so I just don’t ask it if I can’t hear the answer! (Ok, sometimes I forget and toss it out as a throw away, but not often!)


    1. Yes, I thought I’d throw in that gratuitous but lovely picture of Jeff Goldblum, he’s so funny and yummy. 😉
      Oxygen, still #1, as it should be.
      Yes, if you don’t have time or want to hear the answer, don’t ask how people are…if you care, it should never be a throwaway. 🙂
      Hope this weekend is a good one Kate! Yes, Jurassic World is definitely on my list, probably at the theater so we can see the dinosaurs on the big screen…and Chris Pratt. 😉

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  4. Donna, you’re in fine form today! Loved #14… i confess to getting downright evil with that one 😈 Years ago i started giving an honest answer to the “Highhowareyou” question — the one where this answer is supposed to be “Finehowareyou,” followed by a quick exit. I answer honestly and watch them squirm… then i grin and exit. Mega-hugs my friend! 😀


  5. A great post. Number 5 explains soooo many things. Having said that, it generates another question … which parts are correct? I think my head might explode if I ponder that one too long.


  6. You are a guru,,, number 20 is the best… If you made that up, you indeed are worthy of living in a cave on some mountain top… Ommmmm


    1. Thank you kindly and yes, I guess I’m worthy, hmmm, though, that’s a lot of responsible and now I’m thinking of the Monty Python skit where all the hermits are social, I bet mine would end up like that. lol 😉


    1. Thank you so much for the reblog…I just realized in another amazing WordPress move they cut half my title…wow, and sometimes when I Like a post it doesn’t stay Liked. The joys of WordPress. 😉
      Thank you again for sharing this, a lovely Saturday surprise!!! 🙂


    1. Agreed, but that’s a giving, it’s not a responsibility. Helping someone be happy isn’t the same as being responsible for their happiness, of course, that’s just my opinion. 🙂


      1. Thanks, Donna. And thanks for the like on my earlier post 🙂

        6.30pm here, and only some blogging stuff achieved……still looking for a better theme, need max text width plus visible sidebar. The themes page demos are shite, so I’m trawling through blogs to see what I really like.

        Housework still remains. The spiders have taken over now, and today they finally presented us with a joint tenancy agreement to sign…….

        L. X


      2. ErS. SpiderS. We are home to many different families of common UK arachnid, I fear. My house is Victorian, and we live in the country, so spiders, mice, etc, are par for the course. But if I could get off my butt and de-web once in a while, we wouldn’t be co-habiting with whole colonies.

        But at least it keeps the flies down. I hate flies.

        Don’t mind spiders until they start swinging from my light fittings – which one did recently. Light fitting over centre of bed. It abseiled down a thread, then bloody well LAUNCHED itself straight at my chest! I have no idea why. It isn’t even a particularly nice chest since the mastectomy. Perhaps it was curious! Either that or it was an early rent demand……

        L. X


      3. Oh lovely, older houses have so much character, but come with the baggage of the ages…
        Spiders, mice, snakes, birds, all manner of creatures, they are just go where they want to go, we just get in the way sometimes. 😉

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      4. Yes, lovely house. Was too easily seduced by it’s age, charm, etc. Love the place, but it’s like the Forth Bridge – B just finishes all the things that need doing when they need re-doing again, bless him.

        Two of our cats are avid, rabid bird and rodent hunters. Our back step looked like a badly-kept sacrificial altar, covered in blood from where one of the girls used it as her dining table. Had to scrub it to remove the worst when we had a visitor coming who I hadn’t seen for over 25 years. Didn’t stop one of our darlings bringing her nightly catch in while old friend was here, but the smell of clean must have stopped her eating it on the step, and she brought it indoors and ate it in front of us all! Ewwwwwwwww….. Xxxxx

        PS Haven’t seen old friend since. No idea why.


    1. My webs are definitely bigger than hers was……and hers was merely a single web whilst mine are very, very plural! Poor house is positively festooned in them. I’m just waiting for an official rent book now.

      L. X


      1. Me too! I’m very big on music. At last count my itunes had 14,000 songs on it. I had to reformat all of them, because they took up 100gb at one point :-/ Luckily, my ipod is a 160gb 🙂

        I’d already started writing a piece about Vitamin D called “I’m Walking On Sunshine, Oh Yeah….Why Vitamin D3 Is Crucial To Human Health” when I realised you’d already used Walking On Sunshine on your blog party post (which I was trawling through in search of theme inspiration).

        I blame Katrina.

        L. X


      2. That was actually a Blog Party title from another blogger, I just added to it…use it, stuff is used over and over again on the internet, especially recognizable stuff. We can still blame Katrina, wait the band or the Hurricane or both? 😉

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  7. You have many great points here Donna 😀
    Yes, we are not responsible for other than ourselves, what ever it is happiness or what we say or act. Many people should learn more about this topic. Sometimes people expect us to be able to know, what they are thinking, but no, open your mouth, if you want me to listen and do it in a nice way.
    Have a lovely weekend 😀


  8. I am frequently annoyed about how many posts are about celebrities and other diversions so we won’t look at what’s really wrong. I think you really put it in perspective.
    I really enjoyed this post and I say DITTO on Jeff Goldblum! 😉 And David Tennant.

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  9. 🙂

    Great post. I sortof agree with you on Jeff Goldblum…

    I’ve nominated you for the Creative Blogger Award. If you have an award free zone please accept this award as a statement of appreciation for your work.



    1. lol I think many people agree with the Jeff Goldblum thing, sigh, he could read the dictionary and I’d be mesmerized. Yes, I’m that shallow. 😉

      Thank you so much Rob, as of March I went award-free, I just haven’t gotten around to the doing much about it yet. I congratulate you on your award, well-deserved, you’re extremely creative and I thank you kindly for the nomination and gratefully accept your lovely words.

      Hope this weekend is being good to you so far, take care. 🙂


    1. Congrats on this award, well-deserved, Joycelin!
      And wow, look at the nominees, I’m honoured to be included in such a stunning list!
      Thank you so much for thinking of me. I’m one of the award-free bloggers, but I’m so thrilled to be mentioned.
      I always enjoy your posts as well, it’s wonderful we found each other. 🙂
      Congrats and thanks again, hope this day treats you kindly. 🙂

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  10. The voices in the head are in total agreement, it isn’t “42”, but “14” that is the answer to the universe and all it contains.

    i generally respond with something like: “They thought it was lumbago but I’m not totally convinced, let me describe the symptoms and you tell me what you think.”


  11. I like a lot of the things that James Altucher has to say. He just wrote a blog article on “What happens when you stop caring.” or something like that. Don’t worry about what other people think you should say or do. Figure out how you can contribute to the world, be happy and do it. The answer is still 42, no matter what the voices are saying. 🙂


    1. I’ve heard the name, is he some investment guy? I’ll have to look up the article, thanks. 🙂
      Yes, I like that idea…and you’re right, the answer to life, the universe and everything is still clearly, 42. 🙂

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      1. He does a lot of things. Has his own podcast. Appears on Stansberry Radio (investment podcast) Has written several books. Made millions, lost millions, remade millions.


  12. My favorites are #2,13 and 14. Don’t like judgmental people, wonder why we focus on deaths more than lives (especially children’s lives) and I have been embarrassed for thinking someone really cared about me when all they wanted me to say was, “Fine.” Great post. You have so many followers and commenters. Don’t know how you keep up with everyone. Thanks for liking my writing.


    1. It’s getting harder and harder to keep up, I must admit, but it’s lovely to hear from all of you so I can’t complain. 🙂
      Speaking of time, I don’t know how they find the time to judge; maybe we focus on it because it’s over and the other problems seem overwhelming and we can’t begin to comprehend how to solve them; yes, usually I remember they only want fine, but sometimes it slips my mind and I think they actually want the truth, silly me.
      You’re welcome, but I really should be thanking you for writing, hope this day treats you kindly. 🙂


    1. Thank you, thank you, I was thrilled to see my post featured, dear Kathleen and all the traffic flowing in from it too. It’s been a great party, as always, it it wonderful, I’m found lots of new blog friends there.
      Hope this weekend is treating you kindly, best wishes always xox


  13. You are a very wise lady, D. Parker!!! I always enjoy reading your essays. Thank you for linking up at The Blogger’s Pit Stop. I’m sharing your link on social media.
    Carol (“Mimi”) from Home with Mimi


    1. I’m so glad you enjoy them and love #BloggersPitStop too, I love blog parties! They connect bloggers as well as their readers. So honoured to be featured on this week’s party, but also to be able to participate every week. Off to visit and share and visit and share some more. 🙂 Hope this weekend is treating you kindly and thank you so much for sharing. 🙂


    1. I love blog parties! They connect bloggers as well as their readers. So honoured to be featured on this, but also to be able to participate every week. Off to visit and share and visit and share some more. 🙂 Hope this weekend is treating everyone kindly. 🙂


    1. I love blog parties! They connect bloggers as well as their readers. So honoured to be featured on this, but also to be able to participate every week. Of to visit and share and visit and share some more. 🙂 Hope this weekend is treating everyone kindly. 🙂


  14. Live each day one-day at a time. Keep learning and realize you will never learn everything there is to learn. The only person to judge is the one you see in the mirror when you are alone in the bathroom. If you are your own best friend, someone you can trust not to lie to you, that’s good.

    I’m dedicated to never lie to myself. I want to trust me. I want to like who I am as if I am that neighbor you want to treat like you want them to treat you.


    1. I agree completely about rusting me, sometimes when I’m being brutally honest with myself I think, are you being too hard and then I think, no, I’d rather live with the truth than live a lie.
      Hope this week treats you well. 🙂


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