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The 13th Gift


We wander through this life being given gifts, sometimes ones we don’t even recognize as gifts.

It’s easy to get caught up in the glitz and momentum of Christmas. The lights, the stores, the sales, the rushing around, but it always reminds me that having so much has made us poor in many ways.

In the spirit of Christmas I was reading The 13th Gift by Joanne Huist Smith (Harmony Books) where grief and loss are wrapped in the bright and sparkly tints of Christmas. Getting through Christmas after losing someone can seem cruel and impossible. In this book, a family is helped to remember the joy of life after loss when mystery friends leave small gifts on their doorstep for 13 days before Christmas (although actually The Twelve Days of Christmas begin on Christmas Day, sometimes Boxing Day or St. Stephen’s Day, December 26 until Twelfth Night, the eve of Epiphany, January 5). Sweet and optimistic, this book reminds us gifts don’t have to be expensive, big, signed, or even a physical – it can the gift of your time, company, or skills…it just has to be sincere.

1flush2I was disappointed the author added the part where prescription pills were dumped in the toilet…I understand the dramatic effect, but why do writers keep doing this? A while ago, on NBC’s The Blacklist, pills were dumped down the sink. Aaaargh! It’s a horrible message. I’d like to watch or read where a character walks up to a pharmacist and says, “I don’t need these anymore, please dispose of them safely.” Dramatic and non-toxic! Please don’t flush pills, hazardous waste, personal hygiene products, baby wipes, etc. down any drain. Give yourself and others a great Christmas gift – tell authors, studio execs, producers, directors, publishers, writers, actors, etc. that you don’t want to read or watch anything where items go down any drain.

The best gift you can give or receive this Christmas? Knowing you can make a difference, a positive one.



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30 thoughts on “The 13th Gift

      1. Answer the call…after all, one shouldn’t ignore calls from loved ones. 😉
        I’ve had a fun day playing games, watching TV and baking with my son, in other words, a perfect day. 🙂


  1. Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    As we have got older our Christmas gifts between us have taken on a different meaning – we don’t need anything else to wear, dust or pack… but for us Christmas morning always starts with a stocking full of daft things and chocolate.. when Sam was with us he would get on the bed and help unwrap and investigate thoroughly – in the end he had to have his own stocking and watching him empty it carefully and tear the paper of a new Pig’s Ear or squeaky toy was priceless and gave us so much joy… time and laughter are some of the finest gifts you can give anyone…lovely post… and yes do not put pills down the loo!


    1. I don’t know if it ever gets truly easier, but it gets different and seems a little easier, if that makes sense.
      Thank you for the kind words Kate. I hope you can find some peace, comfort, and joy this Christmas! 🙂
      Big hugs, Donna xo

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  2. This reminds me of a good number of years ago when I was getting frazzled with Christmas prep and taking it out on everyone. One of the kids brought a parcel of sweets and biscuits in from the front doorstep with a message attached saying, ‘To the biggest and best family in C(my town)’. I thought the kids had done it to pacify me. They hadn’t. Someone else had left it and it fairly took the wind out of my sails. I was ashamed at how I was letting all the stress get to me and spoiling what should be a happy time with my ranting. Totally calmed me down, hugged all my brood and felt the difference in the anonymous act of kindness. (I was also a bit mortified wondering if whoever had left it had heard me going my ding-dong while depositing it on the doorstep! Probably ran away in fright!)
    Thankfully, I’m much more chilled now. No, really, I am. Not a tranquilliser in sight. 🙂


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