Worry has been an unwanted passenger for too much of my life journey. I’ve tried to make worry useful so it doesn’t drag me down.
Not that the world doesn’t give us a lot to worry about – wars, disease, poverty, hunger, terror, storms and more. Worry is a passive by-product of fear. When we have a fear about something and either don’t know what to do or can’t do anything, we worry.
Unlike vampires worry doesn’t need to be invited in, it just shoves its way into your thoughts, your good times.
There’s a lovely book, Is a Worry Worrying You? by Ferida Wolff and Harriet May Savitz with engaging illustrations by Marie Letourneau (Tanglewood Press) that beautifully explains worry and gives easy suggestions how to overcome it. A children’s book with lessons for adults as well. They give a physical representation of worry as a monster, and give ideas to contain the beast.
Here are my worry tamers:
1. Put it to work. Find ways to make things better or at least better for right now.
2. Have fun. Worry hates fun and shrinks from it.
3. Compartmentalize it. Place the worry in a box in your brain.
4. Share it. Sometimes when you can talk to someone about your worry, the worry shrinks or goes away altogether.
5. Ignore it. Show worry that you’re not going to give it any attention.
When in doubt go for the 5 rule.
Will this worry matter in 5 minutes?
Or 5 hours?
More often than not the answer is no.
If you live through your worst fears and they happen you’ve gone through it more than once, if it never happens, you went through it for nothing.